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Fix Your Broken Heart with Tapping & Switchwords

Updated: Jan 26

How to fix your broken heart?

With Tapping and Switchwords!

Intrigued? Read on...

Are you feeling broken-hearted? Feeling the love pain? Try my quick fix technique Tapping for Heartbreak and Love Pain using Switchwords.

It's a unique combination of the TFT (Thought Field Therapy) special algorithm for Love Pain, combined with the use of certain Switchwords, to clear your gorgeous heart from the pain of heartbreak, so you can feel ready to face the world (and love!) again.

Note: If you feel serious distress, depression, or you feel that the ending of your relationship has caused you to have mental health issues, then please contact your doctor or medical professional to discuss your issues and obtain further help from them.

Overcome Heartbreak with Tapping & Switchwords

One of the biggest problems my clients deal with is the heartbreak and pain caused by a relationship break-up. Ending a relationship with someone that you hoped would be ‘the one’ can be absolutely devastating, leaving you feeling wounded, confused and anxious. Splitting up is very often the root cause of why people become depressed and fear they will never have a loving relationship.

Heartbreak can be so fierce, tearing apart your ability to deal with normal daily life and may cause you to be scared to ask what the future will hold for you. Will you ever be truly loved? Can you ever return to normal life again? If you’ve been betrayed or made a fool of the anger can rip you apart. Even worse, if you blame yourself for the split, the guilt and remorse can make your very soul ache.

It's one of the main reasons why people seek help and solace from psychics and tarot readers. Why did the relationship fail? Will they come back to me? People can spend a ton of time and money looking for answers on how to fix a relationship.

My take on this is that the best thing you can do is to fix the pain you're feeling, clear your mind, spend time building up your self-love and self-esteem, and then - and only then - decide whether you're ready to venture out into the world of relationships.

Heartbreak is a Lonely Place

Others can easily forget how devastating love pain can be. Your relationship didn’t work out – so what? ‘Onwards and upward,’ they say. Plenty more fish in the sea. Oh, but if only it were that easy. Break-ups are a fact of life, albeit an often earth-shattering one.

While time is often a great healer, the problem with time is that, well, it can take an awful long time. In some instances months or even years…

If you are in the throes of dealing with love pain, or if you want to begin clearing the remains of old heartache, meridian tapping techniques, such as TFT (Thought Field Therapy) or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) may help you to begin to feel better faster than anything else you’ve tried.

Tapping for Heartbreak and Love Pain – How Does it Work?

These techniques involve ‘tapping’ on meridian/acupuncture points, whilst ‘tuning into’ the problem or emotion you are trying to clear. You only need to tap gently, as if you were tapping on the touch screen of your mobile phone. This Love Pain protocol is like a ‘tapping sandwich’ because you will tap the points in a specific sequence, then you will do the 9 Gamut Procedure, then you will again tap the points in the specific sequence again.

In order for you to be able to measure your progress, some sort of scale is required. My preference is to use Silvia Hartmann’s SUE scale (Subjective Units of Experience) which measure from -10 where you feel absolutely desperate, rock bottom, then to 0 where you kinda feel 'meh, not really feeling much of anything right now - all up to +10 where you feel absolute bliss, total happiness, in love with the world, you beautiful babes!

What’s Your Heartbreak Number?

So, tune into your Heartbreak and Love Pain. Where are you on the scale? Write down the figure as this will give the starting point and you can observe your progress. It may take you a few goes to ‘get the hang’ of how to do Tapping for Heartbreak, so it's necessary to be patient with yourself and the procedure. At the end of each full round, go within yourself to gauge where you are on the SUE scale and record the result.

Remember throughout the process to mentally tune into the emotion/feeling of ‘Love Pain.’

Say either to yourself or out loud ‘This Love Pain’ when you tap each point as a ‘Reminder Phrase’ to keep your mind focussed (or however else you want to refer to the emotional hearthbreak you are feeling.)

Familiarise yourself with the Tapping Points as shown in the diagram below before practising Tapping for heartbreak.

First Part – The Tapping for Heartbreak Procedure

Tap each point in the exact order as per the list below. Tap about 3 or 4 times on each tapping point.

Tapping Points:

Side of Hand (Karate Chop Point)

Under Nose

Eyebrow Point

Underarm Point**

Little Finger

Index Finger

Collarbone Point

** Note: The Underarm Point is on the side of the body approximately

4" down from the armpit (about where a bra strap would be).

Use all four fingers to tap on the Underarm Point.

Second Part – The 9 Gamut Procedure

This is a ‘brain-balancing’ technique involving eye movements, counting and humming, that is ‘sandwiched’ between the Tapping Procedure to provide a three part treatment.

Throughout the 9 Gamut Procedure you need to continuously tap on the Gamut Point. This is a point found on the back of the hand. To find it, make a fist and find the ‘dip’ about half an inch back from the knuckles at the base of the smallest finger and the ring finger. This ‘dip’ or depression is the point that you tap whilst continuing to keep your mind focussed on the problem or emotion. It’s important to tap this point continuously.

Also, whilst carrying out this procedure keep your head upright and steady (look straight ahead and don’t allow your head to move about, keep your head still, it’s only your eyes that move!)

Keep tapping on the Gamut Point continuously and keep your head still throughout.

Remember to focus on the heartbreak throughout this procedure.

Throughout this part keep your head still, it’s only your eyes that move:

  1. Open your eyes

  2. Close your eyes

  3. Open your eyes

  4. Look down to the left

  5. Look down to the right

  6. Roll eyes in a full circle clockwise.

  7. Roll eyes in a full circle anti-clockwise.

  8. Hum a tune aloud (for around five seconds)

  9. Count aloud from one to five

  10. Hum a tune aloud (for around five seconds)

Third Part – Repeat the Tapping for Heartbreak Procedure

Remember to keep focussing on the ‘Love Pain’ that you feel as you tap.

Tap each point in the exact order as per the list below. Tap about 3 or 4 times on each tapping point.

Tapping Points:

Side of Hand (Karate Chop Point)

Under Nose

Eyebrow Point

Underarm Point

Little Finger

Index Finger

Collarbone Point

Practice this 'Tapping for Heartbreak' procedure a few times until you have it memorized, then move on to incorporating Switchwords.

Use Switchwords with Tapping for Heartbreak

As I said previously, it may take a few rounds to become au fait with the process, but keep going as you will soon find it becomes second nature. After three or four rounds, when using this process with my clients, I'll introduce ‘Switchwords.’ Initially, at the end of the Tapping for Heartbreak rounds, I'll instruct the client to use the Switchwords whilst thinking about the heartbreak, and then once the client feels more in balance, I get them to concentrate only on the Switchwords as they tap using the tapping sequence as per the Tapping for Heartbreak round. In effect, this ‘taps in’ the benefits of the Switchword.

How are Switchwords used?

Switchwords can be used singularly or as a combination of words. Personally, I find them far more effective than the usual affirmations because it appears the subconscious (or indeed the conscious) mind does not hold up objections against them, in the way that I find it tends to with affirmations. If you have ever tried affirmations, such as ‘I am loved and fabulous,’ and immediately found your subconscious replying with ‘Oh really? Since when?’ then you will recognize the way you can end up playing a tug-of-war within yourself.

Switchwords can be used to sidestep this problem and glide into the subconscious with little, if any, resistance. Thus, the subconscious simply ‘accepts’ the Switchword and begins to act upon it automatically. It is in this way that the words are used to ‘switch off’ the internal resistance and ‘switch on’ the result you seek.

Tapping and Switchwords can work perfectly well as stand-alone modalities. But I find combining the two seems to increase and fast-track the results my clients want. Originally, James T. Mangan (the originator) identified 100 Switchwords and each can be used for the specific result wished for. Essentially, the Switchwords represent the essence of the required result and can be spoken aloud, recited internally, chanted or even written down, as many times as you feel is needed.

Switchwords for Heartbreak and Love Pain

Rather than list all of the original Switchwords here, I suggest that you pick a couple of words from the following list, which are the ones I find most effective:

Alone – this helps you to shift the focus onto yourself, enabling you to take active steps to nurture and heal yourself.

Around – this helps you to gain a more balanced perspective.

Be – achieve a sense of peace, chase away loneliness.

Cancel – this helps dispel anxiety, negative thoughts and unwanted situations.

Change – use this word to rid yourself of emotional pain.

Charm – the word to use to help you manifest your heart’s desire.

Crystal – a great Switchword to enable you to shed light on a situation and become more clairvoyant, able to see the future.

Cut – the go-to word to rid yourself of toxic relationships, enabling you to sever ties where needed.

Dedicate – use this to stop hanging onto a situation or person and free yourself to move on.

Divine – this increases personal ability and opens you up to miraculous solutions and serendipitous events.

Forgive – helps to reduce anger and thoughts of revenge and lessen feelings of remorse.

Off – useful for reducing an unwanted habit and great for helping you sleep well.

Postpone – enables you to let a situation or person go.

Reverse – if you are stuck in a repetitive behaviour pattern or feel a grudge against someone, this is the word for you.

Save – if you have developed a habit for alcohol to drown your sorrows, this will help with that and any other unwelcome habits.

Together – according to James T. Mangan, this is the most important Switchword and helps you master anything, including getting your act together. It facilitates the ability to become single-minded and absolutely focussed on what you need to.

Tomorrow – stop the sorrow and reduce remorse with this word.

Add Together-Divine

Before starting the Tapping rounds, I go through the list with my client, who picks the words that most resonate (to which I always add Together-Divine) for example:


Switchwords & Tapping for Heartbreak Homework:

This is spoken aloud or internally as the client ‘taps’ through the Tapping for Heartbreak round. After the session, the client’s ‘homework’ is to do at least three rounds, six times a day. At the end of the day, the client records how they are feeling in a private journal. This helps them chart their progress as they move from ‘Love Pain’ into a new phase of positivity.

Once the love pain, or in other words the 'emotional charge' is gone, the next stage is for me to work with the client in order to uncover unhelpful beliefs that are running around causing havoc, within the client's subconscious, and clear them using a variety of mind tools and techniques.

And here's the really interesting part of the process...

When the client clears both the emotional heartbreak and the erroneous beliefs about themselves and relationships, they feel so much better about themselves. They feel more balanced. Stronger. More comfortable in their own skin. They have a different vibe about them. More attractive. Kind of magically magnetic.

And through the Law of Attraction, because they're feeling so much better about themselves, they attract a better type of relationship. One that supports them. Lifts them up instead of bringing them down. That makes life better than ever before.

It's worth putting in the effort now to create a better future for yourself, don't you think?

If you're in the midst of heartbreak, then I hope this information is helpful for you. If you decide to give Switchwords and Tapping for Heartbreak a try, I would love to hear from you, so please let me know how you get on. ;-)

Kick the heartbreak to the kerb and have a fabulous day!

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