How to Deal with Setbacks

Updated: Aug 31

Setbacks – what do you do when they happen? When life goes pear shaped, and you have to deal with setbacks, it’s tempting to slide into self-blame and dejection.


‘I wasn’t good enough.’

‘I should have done more.’

‘I’m not capable.’


None of these statements are true!


Setbacks are part of Your Destiny


Often life gives you a sharp dropkick in the butt, in the form of a setback, to move you nearer to your destiny. But when you switch from frustration and into a sense of curiosity – about how your so-called failure is simply feedback you can learn from, and what sort of life you want to create for yourself – you can start thinking…


And you can start planning…


About how best to use the experience to move forward, what steps will get you from A to B. Success is always built on the back of failure.


Setbacks happen to the Best People


Walt Disney was fired from one job because he supposedly ‘lacked imagination and had no good ideas.’ Oprah Winfrey was sacked as a television journalist because she was deemed ‘unfit for television.’ J. K. Rowling’s first Harry Potter book was rejected a dozen times as it wasn’t considered ‘bestseller material.’ Go figure!


There’s a setback, and then a time lag between a supposed failure and success – a space in which to plan. To see how you’ll move from setback to comeback. To see what works and what needs improvement. To adjust and move forward. And, most critically, to keep going and learn what you need to along the way.


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