Self-Sabotage – Why Do You Do It?

Updated: Aug 31

Self-sabotage. What a pain in the butt it is when part of you wants to get ahead, do what’s most important, make your dreams a reality.


And maybe, for a while, you’re on track, on point, headed in the right direction.


How does self-sabotage show up for you?


Then self-sabotage turns up. It takes many forms: self-doubt, worry about what others think, believing you’re not good enough, haven’t got what it takes… Fill in the blank…

Sometimes it’s more sneaky. It shows up as tiredness, illness, simply feeling like you haven’t got the energy.


But when you look back, you can detect a pattern, a set way that you react to your own goals. It’s your particular way of tripping yourself up.


And it happens. Every. Single. Time.


But it doesn’t need to. Next time can be different.


Learn to defeat self-sabotage


But you need to make goals and learn to stick with them. It’s not just a life-changing confirmation of your ability to turn your life around. It’s also mindset changing. Which means that sticking to something helps you to build your self-belief. That in turns means you build up your self-esteem and sense of self-value. And others will begin to notice it too. Your vibe will change. You’ll seem more determined. And you’ll develop courage as a result.

Building self-belief is like building a magnet, one that attracts people and events to you. It’s almost magical the way that the world reacts to the new you.


The moment of change is right now!


It doesn’t matter how many times in the past you’ve let self-sabotage trip you up. The only moment that matters is this moment. Right now. The moment when you say to yourself ‘Enough is ENOUGH!’ This is when you close the curtain on the past, and pull back the curtain on a new stage in your life.


Doing something life-changing begins with mind-changing. By trying something new and different. Like life-coaching, hypnotherapy, meridian therapy. There’s so much out there that can help you overcome the self-defeating patterns of sabotage.


Start now. What action are you going to take now? Decide and do it.


And if you want some help with that – let me know.



Did you like this blog? Share it with your friends!



And there’s more…


Do you have a secret desire to write a book? Then everything you need to know about writing a book is right here - click on the link: 40 Days To A Finished Book!


Want to create big change in your life and have yourself some freedom from the daily 9 to 5 grind? Click on the link: Learn how to step into your best life by gaining the skills that you need!



Kick self-sabotage firmly in the ass with these fabulous resources:


Have you ever had a deadline for a big work project, only to find yourself down to the wire because you spent too much time on social media? Ugh! How many Januarys have you resolved that this is the year you’re finally going to lose the weight, only to abandon your diet in just a few weeks? If these scenarios sound familiar, you are stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage. Facepalm moment! Fear not, help is at hand.


Combining therapeutically proven strategies with practical tools and self-assessments, Dr. Judy teaches you how to identify your triggers, modify your thoughts and behaviors, find your true motivation, and unlock your willpower to stop this vicious cycle in its tracks.Practical and transformative, Stop Self-Sabotage is your ultimate guide to jumpstart lasting, positive change and start living the life you want. Buy this book! Click on the link below: Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way – Dr Judy Ho:


Whenever elite fighter Hazel Gale entered the ring, she felt fear. Not just the rational fear of being knocked out. But something deeper as well. The fear that she didn’t deserve success, and that she would let everyone – especially herself – down. While others saw a confident world champion athlete, Hazel was plagued by anxiety, self-doubt and depression. It was these things – the monsters of her mind – that she felt were her most dangerous opponents, and she waged a war. It was that hard-fought internal battle that ultimately led her to burn out.Now a sought-after London therapist, Hazel has created a revolutionary system for overcoming fear, underperformance and self-sabotage. In The Mind Monster Solution, she uses personal anecdotes, practical exercises and innovative therapeutic tools to help you create a balanced life, rich with meaning, confidence and positivity. Buy this book! Click on the link below: The Mind Monster Solution: How to overcome self-sabotage and reclaim your life – Hazel Gale:


At last, a book that not only shows you why you self sabotage your health, wealth, relationships and business but goes on to demonstrate how to successfully transform those situations. “Have you ever wondered what stopped you from succeeding or what prevented you from solving problems? In Matt Hudson’s delightful book, he creates an in-depth understanding of how our inner saboteur works and gives you the tools and the motivation to overcome even the most ingrained issues in your life. Buy this book! Click on the link below: The Saboteur Within: The Definitive Guide To Overcoming Self Sabotage – Matt Hudson:


Self-sabotage is often the result of not feeling ‘good enough.’ Take a look at this blog – click on the link: https://www.ruthybaker.com/2020/05/24/not-good-enough-is-that-how-you-feel/

Want to increase your confidence? Take a look at one of my Confidence Tips on my YouTube channel. Please like, share and subscribe to be kept up-to-date with my latest vlogs, videos and meditations! Click on the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDpnnFWbjvE


Did you like this blog? Share it with your friends!


To be updated with my latest blogs, books and courses, or to message me for a private online life-coaching and therapy session, – please fill in the contact form - go to Menu and click on Contact - I’ll be thrilled to hear from you!


Join me on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest!


My YouTube channel (Ruthy Baker) has a number of vlogs, videos and guided meditations. Please feel free to subscribe to be kept up-to-date with the latest content. Click on the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDpnnFWbjvE


Join my Facebook community and discover more blogs and content: https://www.facebook.com/ruthybakerhypnosis/


I also run a private Facebook Group – Childless-Not-By-Choice – Healing & Moving Forward, which you can access via the above link.  It’s for blogs and healing resources (such as EFT Meridian Tapping, Hypnotherapy, Guided Meditations, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and much more) to help recover from the emotional trauma of being childless-not-by-choice, and move forward with your life.


Want to connect on Twitter?  Meet me here – Click on the link:    Ruthy Baker Hypno on Twitter


Love Instagram? Come and meet me there!  Click on the link: https://www.instagram.com/ruthbaker888/


If you’re a Pinterest peeps find me here: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/ruthybakerlifecoach/

Did you like this blog? Share it with your friends!

© Ruthy Baker 2020