Face Your Fears - They’re Not as Scary as They Look in the Dark
- Ruthy Baker
- Sep 26
- 9 min read
Updated: Oct 6
Halloween isn’t just about costumes and candy. Beneath the carved pumpkins and spooky décor, it’s really a celebration of courage disguised as fun. Haunted houses, creepy masks, eerie stories - they all invite us to face your fears on purpose, to flirt with shadows, and to discover something profound: most of what scares us isn’t half as terrifying once we look it in the eye.
Think about it: why do you choose to watch scary movies or walk through haunted mazes? It’s not because you enjoy being terrified. It’s because on some level, you know fear is a teacher. It asks you to lean in, to face your fears, and not run away.
Fear Is a Teacher, Not a Villain
Most of our real-life fears aren’t monsters lurking under the bed. They’re uncertainties dressed up in shadow:
• What if I fail?
• What if I get rejected?
• What if this change is too much for me?
Fear likes to slip on masks, but if you pull them off, what you usually find is a lesson. The fear of rejection teaches you where you crave belonging. The fear of failure teaches you where you long for growth. The fear of change teaches you that your comfort zone has become too small. But when you face your fears you grow and stretch your comfort zone.
You’ve Survived Every Monster So Far
Look back. Every “scary thing” you’ve faced - a difficult conversation, a leap of faith, a personal heartbreak - you made it through. You may have some scars, but you’re still here. Stronger. Wiser.
Fear is loud before the moment. But after you face it, there’s often relief, even pride. You realise the monster shrinks in the daylight.
Growth Lives in the Shadows
Halloween reminds us that the dark isn’t something to avoid. It’s where transformation begins. The shadows hold the parts of ourselves we’d rather ignore — doubts, insecurities, old wounds. But those are the exact places where our deepest growth takes root.
Just like trick-or-treating, sometimes you have to knock on the “scary doors” inside yourself to discover the treasure waiting behind them.
How to Practice Courage This Season
Instead of just slipping on a witch’s hat or vampire cape, try this soul-level experiment:
Write down one fear that’s holding you back. Give it a name. Make it a character. Then write how you’ll defeat it. (You might be surprised how creative your bravery is.)
Try something that scares you a little. Speak up in the meeting. Start the project. Set the boundary. Let Halloween be your courage catalyst.
Play with costume energy. Who would you be if fear didn’t hold you back? Dress like that version of you — even if it’s only in your mindset.
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Affirmation to Face Your Fears:
“I walk through the haunted house of my mind with courage. Every fear I face loses its power.”
Final Reflection
This Halloween, don’t just decorate your home with cobwebs and candles, decorate your spirit with courage. Step into the shadows, face your inner monsters, and remember: they’re never as scary as they look in the dark.
And if you can find the courage to face your fears in October, imagine the light you’ll carry with you through the rest of the year.
Q: Isn’t fear just a natural warning system — shouldn’t I avoid it?
A: Healthy fear keeps you safe, yes. But many fears are overblown shadows from old experiences. Facing them helps you see which is which.
Q: What if I face a fear and “fail” anyway?
A: Then you’ve proven to yourself you can survive it — and that’s freedom. The sting fades, but the resilience stays.
Q: How do I know the difference between intuition and fear?
A: Intuition is calm, grounded, and clear. Fear is noisy and urgent. The more you pause and listen, the easier it becomes to tell them apart.
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Further Resources to Help You Face Your Fears:
If you’re ready to face your fears in a deeper, more intentional way, books can be incredible companions on the journey. The right words have a way of cracking open courage, shifting perspective, and reminding you that you’re not alone in your struggles. Here are three powerful reads I recommend — each one offering a unique lens on fear and how to move through it with more confidence, trust, and authenticity.
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This isn’t your typical self-help book, it’s a wake-up call. Gavin de Becker shows how fear can actually be your inner compass, helping you spot danger and trust your gut. It’s empowering, eye-opening, and a must-read if you’ve ever second-guessed your instincts.👉 Grab your copy on Amazon here
Brené has this magical way of making vulnerability feel like strength instead of weakness. In Daring Greatly, she shows how leaning into uncertainty — the stuff we usually run from — is exactly what unlocks courage, creativity, and deeper connection.👉 Find Daring Greatly on Amazon here
If fear feels like it runs the show, this book offers a gentle reset. Lissa Rankin blends science and spirituality to show how fear shrinks when you live from authenticity and trust. It’s like a soulful guidebook for shifting from “what if” to “why not.”👉 Check out The Fear Cure on Amazon here
Just like Halloween reminds us that the shadows aren’t as scary as they first appear, these books show us that fear can actually be a guide. Whether you’re learning to trust your instincts, embracing vulnerability, or shifting from fear to authenticity, each page is a step toward courage. And if you’d love more soulful book recommendations, journaling prompts, and guided practices, make sure you subscribe to my newsletter — it’s where I share the good stuff I don’t post anywhere else.
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