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5 Ways to Get to Know Yourself Better

Updated: Oct 12, 2022

The world is full of people who don’t know themselves that well. Because they can’t articulate their preferences, goals, and desires, people who don’t know themselves well often feel lost or directionless in life.

If you can relate to this, then it’s time to improve your sense of self and take some time to get to know yourself a lot better!

If the concept of getting to know yourself seems strange, never fear - there are some simple tricks and exercises you can do to get a better understanding of your true self.

Here are 5 ways to get to know yourself better:

1. Take some quiet time and spend it alone each day, even if it’s only for a few minutes.

The noise of the world around you can be deafening. If you’re struggling to better understand your own thoughts, take a minute or two each day to meditate or ruminate on a current dilemma you’re facing.

While it seems simple, this method is an excellent way to allow your true inner thoughts a chance to ‘speak up’ in a noisy world. Some quiet time for yourself lets you think your own thoughts in an uninterrupted environment - no friends offering opinions, co-workers complaining, or family trying to give advice.

2. Consider keeping a written log of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions.

Journals, logs, and diaries have been around for ages for a good reason. They’re a fantastic tool for self-reflection. When you get all of your thoughts literally ‘out of your head’ it makes them easier to analyze when they’re written on the page.

After you spend some time writing, take a minute to read over what you’ve written. The clarity you feel concerning your inner thoughts and feelings once you can read through them can be like a sudden lightning bolt of understanding.

3. Ask people you look up to or trust deeply for their honest feedback.

A great way to learn more about yourself is to get an outsider’s perspective. This method can feel super daunting; it’s tough hearing feedback from other people, especially when it could be constructive criticism. Or even when it feels like not-so-constructive criticism. Ouch!

However, gaining an outsider’s view of yourself is a great way to better understand the different aspects of who you are (and how other people perceive you). Which begs the question, are you as you see yourself or as others see you?

Yup, it’s a scary prospect to get that level of clarity, but sometimes a few home truths can set you on the right path. You may be delighted to discover that others see wonderful aspects of your character that you’ve never given yourself credit for and that you can expand upon.

4. Give yourself an opportunity to separate yourself from your expectations.

The expectations we set for ourselves can be the biggest and toughest ones to meet. Hands up if you’re guilty of the ‘To-Do’ list that’s impossible to get done?

To get a better understanding of yourself, give yourself a chance to picture yourself without those big, looming expectations over your head.

Having expectations for yourself isn’t a bad thing. Often, having these expectations leads to goal setting and a general positive direction for living life. However, if you have a tendency to set yourself unrealistic expectations, you could lose sight of your true self.

Think about your feelings, emotions, thoughts, and opinions without the pressures of your expectations also crowding your mind. Do you see yourself differently without those expectations in place? Probably so!

5. Take some personality tests to gain a better understanding of yourself.

There are dozens of reputable personality tests you can take to gain a better understanding of yourself. They may not be 100% accurate, but they’re a great way to analyze yourself and think about your inherent traits and character.

Some of the most commonly used personality tests are the Myers-Brigg Type Indicator, the Enneagram personality test, and the DISC tests. Different tests measure different aspects of self and personality. Consider trying a few different types to gain a bigger picture of yourself.

In a world that is struggling with confusion and strife, gaining a deep understanding of who you are is a gift to the world.

That’s because instead of the insecurity of not being grounded, you'll become totally at ease within yourself.

And you’ll become a shining example to others of how, when you know yourself better, you can concentrate on creating the life that best suits who you are on a deep level.

One that fits in with your values and beliefs. A life that isn’t a constant battle, instead there’s a sense of ease. A feeling of resting easily where your feet are, instead of being trapped within inner confusion.

There’s an even deeper reason to understand yourself…

Your personality becomes your personal reality.

So, on a law of attraction level, it’s important to know yourself and to work on those aspects, fears and unhelpful beliefs, which hijack your mind if you’re not aware of them. Know who you are and you’ll have clarity of where you need to elevate yourself.

From there, it’s possible to look for signposts to help you in your personal and spiritual development. But without that self-awareness, it’s easy to remain stuck where you are.

I hope you enjoyed this blog. Please let me know about the tips and techniques that enhance your life - I'd love to hear from you. And if there's a particular issue or subject that you'd like me to explore in a blog, then please drop me a line!

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