How to Deal with Insensitive Comments about Childlessness

Updated: Jan 11

How to deal with insensitive comments is something that most childless-not-by choice women have to learn. Perhaps, like me, you’ve been on the receiving end of hurtful words that shock you or cause you to feel completely pissed off.


It’s true that some comments are well intended, but even so, they can leave you reeling. But sometimes the words used are intentionally hurtful. Spiteful even. Most times, they minimise how infertility or childlessness affects you.


Other People and their Unwanted Opinions


Even worse is the sense of entitlement others feel they have to tell you how lucky you are: that you can’t have kids, don’t get your sleep disturbed, can do what you like, and imply that you should get over it. Believe me, I’ve heard some corkers in my time. My jaw has dropped at the tactless and unsympathetic things people have blurted to my face.


I do understand the pain and frustration caused, the impact on your sense of self, the need to withdraw and cocoon yourself, and sometimes the desire to lash out.


How to Deal with Insensitive Comments using Meridian Tapping


So, how to deal with insensitive comments? The first port of call is to deal with the emotional sting you feel, and for that I recommend Meridian Tapping.


There are various forms of Meridian Tapping, such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), TFT (Thought Field Therapy) and different derivatives. All of these techniques involve tapping on meridian (acupuncture) energy points, while ‘tuning into’ the problem, thought, or feeling that causes you to feel upset.


Tapping Points Diagram


Take a look at the diagram below to locate the various energy points. I’ll also include a video to show you a basic Meridian Tapping routine.


To begin with tune into the feeling in your body. Rate on a scale of -10 (feeling absolutely dreadful) up to +10 (feeling wonderful) and make a note of it at the beginning, and at the end of each round. Keep your focus on the feeling, while you’re tapping through the points, and make a note of where you are on the scale after each round.


This isn’t just a ‘one time’ fix. You need to repeat this process regularly, not only when you’re upset in the moment, but also on the memories of when you were subjected to thoughtless comments.


Eventually, you’ll find the ‘sting’ will lessen and flatten out, and you’ll be less affected by what people say.


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Do You have Any Questions?


Now that you know how to deal with insensitive comments, do try this technique and comment below your results. If there’s anything on the Meridian Tapping routine you’re stuck on, let me know and I’ll do a blog or video to address the issue.


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If you’d like to learn more about Meridian Tapping, take a look at these resources:


Tapping is one of the fastest and easiest ways to address both the emotional and physical problems that tend to hamper our lives. Using the energy meridians of the body, practitioners tap on specific points while focusing on particular negative emotions or physical sensations. The tapping helps calm the nervous system to restore the balance of energy in the body, and in turn rewire the brain to respond in healthy ways. Buy this book! Click on the link below: The Tapping Solution: A Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living – Nick Ortner:


Thought Field Therapy (TFT) has changed the way thousands of people overcome emotional problems. Over the last few years TFT has been recognized by psychotherapists around the world as an invaluable tool in the search for sustained relief from psychological and physical problems. Involving tapping energy points on the body and specific eye movements, it can be used to treat phobias, compulsions, trauma, anxiety, addictive urges, depression, obsessions, jet lag and physical pain. Buy this book! Click on the link below: Tapping The Healer Within: Use thought field therapy to conquer your fears, anxieties and emotional distress – Roger Callahan:



Your body is comprised of energy pathways and energy centres that are in constant motion, interconnecting with your cells, organs, immune system, mood and thoughts. This book incorporates the concepts of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to show you how to shift these energies, so you can influence your physical health, your emotional patterns, and your state of mind. With this strategy, stubborn phobias often fade in minutes, the lifelong effects of an early trauma can frequently be reduced or completely eliminated, uncontrollable anger can rapidly become manageable and even elusive physical problems may respond where other treatments have failed. Buy this book! Click on the link below: The Healing Power Of EFT and Energy Psychology: Tap into your body’s energy to change your life for the better – Donna Eden & David Feinstein:


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