How to look confident is something that as a hypnotherapist and life coach I’m asked to help with a lot. And it’s understandable that you want to know how to look confident. Confidence gives you an advantage in any situation. You’re more likely to ace an interview, charm your date, or convince your boss that you’re the right person to promote. In fact, just looking like you’re confident is often enough to make you more persuasive and successful.
Plus, your behavior tends to shape your thinking, so acting assertive will help to make your doubts and fears melt away.
Even if the thought of confronting your boss or speaking in public makes you nervous, you can appear calm and collected. Try these tips for training yourself on how to look confident under pressure.
How to Use Body Language:
Adjust your posture
The way you hold yourself and move around plays a big role in determining your mood and how others see you. Make it a habit to sit and stand with your back straight and your shoulders back. Distribute your weight evenly and tighten your abdominal muscles.
Make eye contact
Hold your head and your gaze up. If you find it uncomfortable to look someone in the eye, try focusing on different areas of their face for a couple of seconds at a time, or gaze at the spot between their eyes. The results will be about the same.
Overall, think in terms of taking up whatever space is available to you. Uncross your arms and legs. Plant your feet about a foot apart. Lean toward someone while they’re talking to you. Use your hands expressively and in an open way when talking.
If you tend to move faster when you’re nervous, experiment with doing the opposite. Make your gestures and speech more deliberate and relaxed. Also, allow your voice to deepen slightly, people tend to speak faster and higher when they’re nervous, so do the opposite.
A happy face looks more confident and attractive. Think about how you feel when someone beams at you and share that joy with others.
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Other Ways to Look More Confident:
Get a makeover
Careful grooming reminds yourself and others that you’re worth caring about. Treat yourself to a makeover. Change your hairstyle or buy a flattering outfit.
It’s easier to look and feel confident when your body is strong and limber. Find a variety of physical activities you enjoy and will want to maintain.
Use your breath to calm and center yourself. Lengthening your exhalations helps you to feel braver and manage stress. This is because deep and regular breathing fools your brain into thinking that you feel relaxed, consequently it sends out calming vibes out into your body.
Avoid the ‘ums’ and ‘ahhs’
Upgrade your communications by cutting the ‘ums’ and ‘ahhs’ out of your vocabulary. Replace those fillers with a strategic silent pause instead.
Prepare small talk
Conversation skills can be learned. If you often struggle to find something to chat about, brush up on interesting news stories or funny anecdotes you can share at parties or networking events.
Your anxiety levels decrease when you focus on others. Listen attentively, show enthusiasm, and ask relevant questions. You may make new friends and feel more connected to your old ones. People love to talk about themselves – allow them to. It’ll take the pressure off you and they’re likely to think you’re a great conversationalist, simply because you’re a good listener!
Pay attention to the things you like about yourself and others. Make a list of the events and experiences that you’re grateful for. Being upbeat will help you to appreciate your strengths and aim higher. Keep a gratitude journal to help you notice the great happenings in your life.
Create a mantra
Your self-talk can undermine your efforts or boost your sense of self-worth. Find some words and phrases that lift you up. Post them somewhere you can see them and repeat them to yourself a few times each day. Or use switchwords for confidence, these are one-word mantras that have a direct effect on your subconscious. Find out more about switchwords in the ‘And there’s more’ section below.
It’s natural to feel nervous in high-stakes situations like business presentations and some social situations. The more you practice looking confident, the more effective you’ll become at making a positive impression on others and strengthening your belief in yourself. Eventually, you’ll find that your self-confidence will increase naturally and you’ll find it easier to focus on others, rather than worrying what they think about you.
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